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Fashionably Late; Another question
Topic Started: Nov 23 2005, 12:10 AM (599 Views)
richndanapoint
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When is it actually in good manners to be late? Which situations are ok to be late and how late?

I had a recent birthday party for my son (14 years old). The only people who arrived on time was his grandparents – none of his classmates arrived on time. There were three who arrived only 15 minutes late. The next 30 minutes late, the rest 40 minutes late (and this was a close family friends son) and believe it or not we had the last at over an hour late. With not one phone call! Or one apology.

IMO, It is quite rude to be honest not to show up on time and to wander in at whatever time they feel like it. Agree or disagree?
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If I have to be somewhere at a certain time, you can bet I'll be there early. It's the way I am. Teenagers often don't apologise for things so that doesn't surprise me. :rofl: Or maybe that was just me back then. :r

I don't think anyone should be late on purpose (which is usually why people are 'fashionably late'), I agree that it's rude but that's on the assumption that there was a reason for there being a specific time to show up. If someone suggested meeting up somewhere 3 hours before necessary I probably wouldn't worry about being a little late. But if someone sets a time to be somewhere, it's usually for a good reason so I do think it's only manners to show up, give or take 10-15 minutes. Obviously if you're late because of traffic or y'know, your home town got hit by a giant marshmallow or something, it's not your fault but purposely dragging time simply because you feel like it is a tad rude. Frankly, if someone was an hour late for me and they didn't have a good reason or apologised, I'd have slapped them into next week. ;)
But I'm impatient so...
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A blast from the past.

I agree, unless traffice and that good stuff :P pluse I also allow "grace" time since peoples clocks are not in perfict unsion :P nor should we expect to have poeple show up at 300 hours on the dime :P
I normaly apologise if Im early too :P
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I do not like to be the very first person to arrive at a party, but I usually arrive within the first 15 minutes or so, depending on the type of party. Traditional birthday parties = get there on time, or very close to it.
College age parties = get there before everyone else leaves. :P

I am always at least 10 minutes early for class. If I am not in my seat at least 5 minutes before lecture starts, the world is ending.* :ph34r:

*Or my alarm did not go off or something ate my bicycle or some other slightly comic situation
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I think fashionably late was coined by the person who never can get anywhere on time so they just said it's fashionable. And wait, fashionable! It must be something good!

:P

I'm always early for things. I hate being late at parties, you come in and everyone is already talking and it's awkward, in my opinion.
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There's an unwritten rule between me and my friends on how late we can be.

Say I'd invited my friends over to my house for 8, between 8 and 8:30 is acceptable to arrive, between 8:30 and 8:45 is when we start jokingly slagging their lateness and if they are an hour late we'll question them.

That's fine if we are all waiting indoors, but if we were meeting up outside, say in town, then anymore that 15 mins late is unacceptable.

I normally show up a tad late for parties, don't like to be first. I'm normally with another friend tho, so it's not that bad.
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I'm always late because of my parents :P
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what people who are always late, they should think of it like this..

if your late for work you will get yelled at, if you are always late for work you will be fired. if you are late for an important event or something people will think there was a reason, if you are always late for an important event or something, people will lose respect in you.

some stuff you shouldnt be to early but being on-time or early is always a good habit to get into. if your late, be polite and appologize and at least state a reason why you were late,even if it was, i couldnt find my shoes. or something stupid like that.

be honest.

that is all from me :P
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richndanapoint
November 22, 2005 11:10 PM
When is it actually in good manners to be late? Which situations are ok to be late and how late?

I had a recent birthday party for my son (14 years old). The only people who arrived on time was his grandparents – none of his classmates arrived on time. There were three who arrived only 15 minutes late. The next 30 minutes late, the rest 40 minutes late (and this was a close family friends son) and believe it or not we had the last at over an hour late. With not one phone call! Or one apology.

IMO, It is quite rude to be honest not to show up on time and to wander in at whatever time they feel like it. Agree or disagree?
:angel:

For a birthday party, 40 minutes, even 30 minutes is way too much, unless there is an excuse (ie. traffic, appointment, broke your ankle). But other than that, I'd give 10 minutes at most. I don't like to be at a party on the mark, but I'll be there no more than 5 to 10 minutes after it "began".
That's the only way I'd really be late for things. For other stuff like school, I mind being late, although when I'm running late it's not so bad, since I always manage to slip into class before the bell rings. :ermm:
I'd be more concerned with work and important occasions like that. Sure, school's important, but they don't do much about lateness anyway. :rolleyes:
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I prefer to be at least half an hour early for appointments with the doctor, work, tutoring appointments (I'm a zoology tutor)...anything formal that begins at a specific time.
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