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Sheltered Upbringing; Irresponsible?
Topic Started: Jun 11 2005, 03:56 AM (977 Views)
Lugiatm
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I just remembered something from a holiday in America. I was talking to someone who had a sheltered upbringing and was raised in a private school. I already had some stereotypical thoughts about this kind of upbringing. I decided to do an experiment. "Do you know how babies are made?" I asked him (it was an awkward conversation to start with)
"Mommy and daddy love each other and then the baby goes in mommy's tummy." By this time I was stifling laughter, but I perservered.
"And do you know where the baby comes out of?"
"The belly button?"

By now I was burying my head in the sand in laughter. This kid was 10 years old and didn't know anything. It makes me think, do you think sheltered upbringing and christian/private schools are right in not teaching kids the "Facts of Life"?
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I think it is good that he did not know...just the fact of a ten year old having the thoughts about such a touchey subject. Some children it can really mess you up if you learn about the facts of life the wrong way. That is why it is better to be at a good age before you know anything about it. I never had a sheltered upbring so I might not know what the hell I am talking about. lol And children should be children you are still a child at ten years old. You should not have to think about a adult topic. Really teenagers aren't even suppose to be learning about such a thing, but then again............lol
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I learned it at the age of 8...
Then again, I live in a hellhole.
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If the parents don't want their kid to be exposed to such information, that's fine in my opinion, since you don't really need to learn about reproduction until you're 15.

I learnt it when I was ten. I feel that's far too young to be taught about sex n stuff.
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Me too, MasterG, but I'd prefer telling my kids too early rather than having it told to them by a classmate.
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We have sex education (Not that it applied to me) in Primary 7. Kids are around 11/12 years old.

I agree with Doug. Classmates may twist the meanings. I wouldn't want my kids to get the idea that sex is 'cool' and to go around having sex with every person that offered.
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I think this is a horrible way to bring up a child. Even beyond the sex thing, children need to be taught at an early age how the world works. If they aren't exposed to what goes on in this place that we live and how to deal with things that they are exposed to, their lives will be more difficult than prosperous.

In the world we live in today, everyone needs to be taught what they'll experience thoughout their lives. People who are brought up like this aren't exposed to the kind of bitterness and hate that many people express as part of their lifestyle. Things like this can be overwhelming to someone who isn't prepared.

I'm glad I wasn't brought up in a private school and stuff. I don't want to be the kind of person who's totally "pure". I don't care if how I was brought up has, to what some would say, has "corrupted" me in any way, as I benefit more from it than I would have from being privately raised (at least I hope).
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I go to a private school and that's an extreme...

I think it is the school's responsibility to teach about sex, and more importantly, safe sex.
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Jun 11 2005, 09:07 AM
I go to a private school and that's an extreme...

I think it is the school's responsibility to teach about sex, and more importantly, safe sex.

Above anyone's responsibility it's your parent's responsibility. Schools often signify sex as being wrong at times, so then you get a lot of kids who are totally paranoid about it.
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Paranoid is not good, instead, be cautious.
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Jun 11 2005, 02:09 PM
2shot
Jun 11 2005, 09:07 AM
I go to a private school and that's an extreme...

I think it is the school's responsibility to teach about sex, and more importantly, safe sex.

Above anyone's responsibility it's your parent's responsibility. Schools often signify sex as being wrong at times, so then you get a lot of kids who are totally paranoid about it.

But, all too often, parents show that they are not into their child's lives, and that they are not ready to sit down and talk to their kids, and without guidance from some form of authority (parent, school, clinic...) the kids are left to find out from their friends.
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There is a certain point where it is alright to shelter your child from the world's problems and woes, etc. However, after a point - in my mind, around 6th grade Sex Education should begin to be taught. Obviously, you don't tell them everything at that point, but you tell them enough to be safe and know that it is something they shouldn't be doing at that point in their lives or for many more. And you continue the education as they get older, and progressively tell them stuff in more detail as they mature to handle it.


I'll point out that private schools are not a bad thing. I received a much better education through my private school than I ever could have in a public system in my area. Although parochial do tend to shelter their children to an extent, I don't see that as a bad thing so long as at a point in the early teen years they extend past the parochial life and develop friendships and have experiences away from what they've known formerly...of course always in safe, healthy ways.


Oh, and I'll insert that in general, in my area, those that were raised in the private school tended to develop maturity at a faster rate and had a higher sense of morals which they carried onward into the public high school system. [/promotional advertisment for parochial private schools] :P
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I'm not sure when I learned, I skipped 5th grade so I think I first heard about it in school when I was 10 and in 6th grade. Young, I know, but 6th grade is middle school and that was what Health was about.

I went to a public school, and most of the kids already had jokes with a sexual orientation, if I didn't know something I learned quickly not to ask, it was embarrassing at times, I was younger than everyone else and they would start laughing at me if I didn't know something. To the point though, I think Health was beneficial, it's better to learn facts at a young age than what a peer would choose to tell you. Right now in Health we're learning about methods of birth control, in high school I think that's a good thing.

I don't think that children of sheltered upbringings should be strippped of all security and suddenly be shoved into something totally foreign, but they should learn about everything early. Gradually from parents and teachers before they get totally confused.

I'll end my rambling now... :P
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Well, I knew how a baby was born since I was like 6. And am I emotionally/sexually scarred?

*maybe*
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I bet that everyone under age of 11 knows about sex
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