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Sheltered Upbringing; Irresponsible?
Topic Started: Jun 11 2005, 03:56 AM (978 Views)
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ELRocco
Jun 11 2005, 08:13 PM
I bet that everyone under age of 11 knows about sex

Not necessarily. As stated, some children are sheltered. A girl in my class asked me what a pimp was a few days ago. :ermm:
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Since I was too shy to talk with my parents about sex, i ended up finding how a baby was made through a hardcore porno mag my friends had. And no, I don't consider myself emotionally scarred today.
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I think its shocking they dont know that stuff at ten. By the age of 9 my school gave us sex education lessons which involced looking at (as in not pictures, real ones) condoms and caps and other sorts of safe sex. I think its essential people are knowledgeable when it comes to sex.
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Jun 11 2005, 02:44 PM
I think its shocking they dont know that stuff at ten. By the age of 9 my school gave us sex education lessons which involced looking at (as in not pictures, real ones) condoms and caps and other sorts of safe sex. I think its essential people are knowledgeable when it comes to sex.

No offense but that is horrid. Schools should not being giving out that info at age 9! That is horrible. :( In my humble opinoin of corse. Your still a child your not even of age when mother nature kicks in. Why in the world would you need to learn about somthing so fragil at such a young age? :'(
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Sheltered upbringings are messed up, I've known some people with extremely sheltered lives. They can hardly even form intelligent opinions on their own. 10 may be somewhat young for a fairly immature child, but for the most part by that age, they should know the facts of life. There's nothing wrong with going to a religious school, but there's still stuff that needs to be known.
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Some people hit puburty at 9. Hell, the way things are going these days, the age for both male and female 'starting ages' is getting lower.... it's in the water... no really, you should watch teh discovery channel, great stuff on discarded hormones in our water supply :clown: XD


I think 10 is the perfect age to tell them about it and let them learn. Our world is chaning.... fast. This may as well be called a new era, nothing is as it used to be.
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Jun 11 2005, 11:21 PM
Some people hit puburty at 9.

9? Omg... Thats so early :o

My parents havent sheltered me much at all, they want me to know all about the world, and encourage me to read things that may upset me, just to make me learn things.
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My parents didn't shelter me, but they didn't go out of their way to teach me certain things. Of course they talked with me years back about certain things like the usual "Birds and Bees" talk but that was just because they didn't want me to get false or misconstrued information from friends. However as far as movies and video games go, they let me watch what they thought I could handle. And by the time I was around 15 I didn't even have to really ask to see R rated movies, which was pretty cool considering we are a Christian families and they didn't just let me do what I wanted. I think being sheltered is bad but I also think going out of your way to teach your children things isn't the best method. Let them discover things themself with the parents education and guidelines on the way.
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Jun 11 2005, 05:39 PM
My parents didn't shelter me, but they didn't go out of their way to teach me certain things. Of course they talked with me years back about certain things like the usual "Birds and Bees" talk but that was just because they didn't want me to get false or misconstrued information from friends. However as far as movies and video games go, they let me watch what they thought I could handle. And by the time I was around 15 I didn't even have to really ask to see R rated movies, which was pretty cool considering we are a Christian families and they didn't just let me do what I wanted. I think being sheltered is bad but I also think going out of your way to teach your children things isn't the best method. Let them discover things themself with the parents education and guidelines on the way.

I totally agree with you. I don't think someone should actually stress on a child that they need to learn these things, but it needs to be done.

Just the thing about this "sheltered upbringing" is that a lot of families will completely deprive their children of this knowledge and in some cases bring things like sex off as immoral and wrong for the most part.
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My post may seem a bit messy, as before i was shooting with ideas, but now i've forgot some, so they'll come in a random order.

When i was brought up i wouldn't say i was sheltered but my parents didn't sit me down and tell me the so called facts of life.

I also believe that it would be very dificult for both the parent and the child in that conversation.
For example

Parent says, "want to learn how babies are made".
Child, "Okay".
Parent, "Well first of all, errmm..."


It would be extremely dificult, however i do believe that if the child has any questions, and the child asks the parent it shows that the child is ready to know this information and the child should be told the truth.

I got taught sex education in either year 5 or year 6, it was things like erections (can i say that), and cartoon images of what happens. I believe that this was the perfect time to be taught this information and it wasn't to much information for someone of that age.

Saying that though i knew about how babies where made before that video, however i'm not sure how i knew.

Age limits on movies could have something to do with children knowing more about certain things, due to sex scenes in them and other things like that.
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Jun 11 2005, 05:50 PM
My post may seem a bit messy, as before i was shooting with ideas, but now i've forgot some, so they'll come in a random order.

When i was brought up i wouldn't say i was sheltered but my parents didn't sit me down and tell me the so called facts of life.

I also believe that it would be very dificult for both the parent and the child in that conversation.
For example

Parent says, "want to learn how babies are made".
Child, "Okay".
Parent, "Well first of all, errmm..."


It would be extremely dificult, however i do believe that if the child has any questions, and the child asks the parent it shows that the child is ready to know this information and the child should be told the truth.

I got taught sex education in either year 5 or year 6, it was things like erections (can i say that), and cartoon images of what happens. I believe that this was the perfect time to be taught this information and it wasn't to much information for someone of that age.

Saying that though i knew about how babies where made before that video, however i'm not sure how i knew.

Age limits on movies could have something to do with children knowing more about certain things, due to sex scenes in them and other things like that.

lmao, I could so picture that conversation that you sort of started there. I would be freaked out if, out of nowhere, my mom came up and is like "Hey, wanna know how babies are made?". I would probably think she was a pervert of something lol

My parents didn't tell me anything either. I just had older friends and people who I really looked up to that eventually taught me things. I learned these things at an early age, so it wasn't really that big of a thing to me. At that age kids would giggle at the thought of seeing someone's ***, so I can honestly say it helped me mature earlier.
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Jun 11 2005, 01:56 AM
I just remembered something from a holiday in America. I was talking to someone who had a sheltered upbringing and was raised in a private school. I already had some stereotypical thoughts about this kind of upbringing. I decided to do an experiment. "Do you know how babies are made?" I asked him (it was an awkward conversation to start with)
"Mommy and daddy love each other and then the baby goes in mommy's tummy." By this time I was stifling laughter, but I perservered.
"And do you know where the baby comes out of?"
"The belly button?"

By now I was burying my head in the sand in laughter. This kid was 10 years old and didn't know anything. It makes me think, do you think sheltered upbringing and christian/private schools are right in not teaching kids the "Facts of Life"?

I think a sheltered life is bad for a child, like my friend has been sheltered all his life, so no he's super gullable, he believes anything his parents say.

But also, the kids only 10, i didn't learn about that stuff till i was like 11. And most of it i learned from my friends, not my mom and dad.
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