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Do parents understand their children?
Topic Started: Jul 26 2005, 03:27 PM (675 Views)
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I believe my parents know me. There is not too much about me, so it is not hard.
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For me....yes and no....just depends on what.
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ForceEight
Jul 26 2005, 05:05 PM
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Jul 26 2005, 05:48 PM
I honestly don't think the question is correct though, shouldn't it be "Do your parents understand you?". You can't just say no parent that walks the earth understands their child one bit, because my parents do. I don't think you can judge all parents just on the behavior of your parents, because on a regular basis no two people are alike, therefore no one treats their child the same. There are parents who are strict, some who aren't strict enough, people who are too distant, people who are too close, but there are parents in between all that. So I say that the question that your asking, is the wrong one.

You're right.

Most of you don't know what you're talking about, because you've never been in your parents' shoes.

They know what's good for you, and you don't.

They have experienced your age already. You haven't.

They know what will happen when you do certain things, because you did them to.

Your job as a child is to shut up and listen to your parents. They know what they're talking about, because they have been you before. So there's no way you can say they don't understand you. As a whole, they most likely understand you better than you do.

You're a parent aren't you?

Yes, let's all listen to them, let's do everything they did and let's do it their way. Let's not learn ourselves, let's be their little clone. Let's turn out exactly like them.

I dunno about you guys, but my parents are a lot liek the other Keith's (wow, that's odd isn't it?). No matter what I do it's never enough, but when my borther even makes a fricking B on his report card he's praised. If i make a B I'm punished!

So no, parents don't always understand, yeah sure they've been here before, but it was so much different in their days. The world is a much different palce now.
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Myr
Jul 26 2005, 11:26 PM
ForceEight
Jul 26 2005, 05:05 PM
.Raven
Jul 26 2005, 05:48 PM
I honestly don't think the question is correct though, shouldn't it be "Do your parents understand you?". You can't just say no parent that walks the earth understands their child one bit, because my parents do. I don't think you can judge all parents just on the behavior of your parents, because on a regular basis no two people are alike, therefore no one treats their child the same. There are parents who are strict, some who aren't strict enough, people who are too distant, people who are too close, but there are parents in between all that. So I say that the question that your asking, is the wrong one.

You're right.

Most of you don't know what you're talking about, because you've never been in your parents' shoes.

They know what's good for you, and you don't.

They have experienced your age already. You haven't.

They know what will happen when you do certain things, because you did them to.

Your job as a child is to shut up and listen to your parents. They know what they're talking about, because they have been you before. So there's no way you can say they don't understand you. As a whole, they most likely understand you better than you do.

You're a parent aren't you?

Yes, let's all listen to them, let's do everything they did and let's do it their way. Let's not learn ourselves, let's be their little clone. Let's turn out exactly like them.

I dunno about you guys, but my parents are a lot liek the other Keith's (wow, that's odd isn't it?). No matter what I do it's never enough, but when my borther even makes a fricking B on his report card he's praised. If i make a B I'm punished!

So no, parents don't always understand, yeah sure they've been here before, but it was so much different in their days. The world is a much different palce now.

Well said Myr.
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I don't think that my parents understand me very well. My dad is terrible. He is constantly yelling at me because I'm on the computer so much, but really he has no idea what I'm doing. He obviously cannot relate to me, because he doesn't tell me about the situations that I'm in, he tells me about the situations that he was in at my age, and quite frankly we don't go through the same things at all. He says I'm lazy and that I should work hard and then he goes around and says something that is the exact opposite of me. He tells me about how he started working in Mexico going door to door selling oranges and managing a stand in a swapmeet when he was 11. (:rolleyes:) It's like he's telling me that he's a good example and that I should be like him. I would have thought that he would realize by now that I don't want to be anything like him. I know I kind of struggle in this area a lot because I know I try to be a good Christian and I am supposed to respect my parents and this and that, but oh my gosh... I don't know how I can respect this guy with the things that he says. And it seems like some of the things he says even seem hypocritical of what I (and he) believe so then how can I turn around and at the same time follow what he says? We went camping this weekend, and most everyone was outside putting up some stuff so we could go over to the lake, and I was inside reading my Bible, and he came in and started yelling at me that I was lazy. I told him I was reading the Bible, and he told me that cleaning up was more important that reading God's Word at the time and he is supposedly a Christian too so it just seemed like an insult to me so I just said "Nope," and kept reading. Whatever, he just does a lot of stupid things. He acts stupid-silly a lot and if you know my real-life personality, I am not like that at all and it just absolutely drives me crazy. We argue about things alllll the time and I just want to push him off a cliff sometimes. :) Maybe then he'll get into his thick head that he's not always right, that I don't care what he thinks, that we don't all need to agree with him, and UGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Wow, writing that got me angry. :@

Anyways, my mom is cool enough. I argue with her sometimes but we see eye to eye on a lot more things. She makes sense, she listens, she talks like a normal human being, and she is smarter than a brick wall, which is more than I can say for the other 'parent'. :)
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haha, indeed.
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My parents understand teenagers quite well and give me lot of freedom. Of course, I rarely abuse it.
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I bet at a specific point they do.. but then again, today's generation [oh jez, I sound old] is completely different from theirs. My parents have actually admitted to me once that they didn't understand me very well, we've been working on that ever since.
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Jul 26 2005, 11:30 PM
I bet at a specific point they do.. but then again, today's generation [oh jez, I sound old] is completely different from theirs. My parents have actually admitted to me once that they didn't understand me very well, we've been working on that ever since.

It's great to see that you have such a healthy relationship with your parents. :)
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ashmarkam
Jul 26 2005, 11:30 PM
I bet at a specific point they do.. but then again, today's generation [oh jez, I sound old] is completely different from theirs.  My parents have actually admitted to me once that they didn't understand me very well, we've been working on that ever since.

It's great to see that you have such a healthy relationship with your parents. :)

Haha, thanks. My parents let me get away with stuff really often. But before they let me off the hook they always ask, "Why?" I think it helps me learn about myself too because it gives me a chance to explain why I did what I did.

And I have to admit, I do realize sometimes what I had done was pretty stupid. [Being whatever it is.]
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Haha, excellent.

More people should learn to be like you.
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You people will someday realize how wrong you are about your parents not understanding you.

And guess what, knowing what's right for you is plenty a part of it.
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To some degree, parents do not understand kids. But, to the degree they do, we must give them credit for.
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Actually, just sitting here I realized something. [I think someone already said this though]

We're not suppose to understand each other at first. I think thats what makes life interesting. And also, we learn more about ourselves as time goes on. I ponder..the more we learn about ourselves, the more we learn about each other.
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Mine do, infact I have a close relationship with both of my parents. I just think kids don't always try to understand where there parents are coming from. So I guess it all depends on the parents though. :( But then again they were 15(ect.) before to.
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