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Friend might be pregnant...; Need some advice.
Topic Started: Jan 16 2007, 06:42 PM (1,694 Views)
Rose 'n' Rosy
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I am only 13 but....

She really needs too tell her parents, they might help because they no more and if she cant have an abortion then if she has the baby maybe her parents could look after it.
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Chris220
Jan 17 2007, 12:48 PM
Astheria
Jan 17 2007, 04:17 AM
And so I must remind the know-it-alls once again on this topic, and do consider studying it, 'cause I'm sure your professor knows about this and will trip you up on it.

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Close in age exceptions

While some legislation dealing with age of consent sets a hard and fast age under which sexual relations are prohibited, some jurisdictions have included exceptions to this. The exception can take the form of a defence at trial on the grounds of the close age of the participants, or can be an actual close in age exemption in the law negating any charges. The latter details acceptable age ranges for consensual sex between peers that otherwise would not be legal because one or both of the participants would be below the age of consent. The age differences of these two types of legislation vary by jurisdiction, from as low as one year to as high as ten years .


Obviously I don't know what state this occurred in, but you can't make blanket statements. I know for Minnesota it's a 3 year age gap.

I am aware of "Close age" laws. I'm assuming that the person resides in Illinois(Location of poster's profile). In Illinois, it will be treated as a misdemeanor in this situation, as the close age law states that "If the victim is at least 13 years of age and the defendant is less than 5 years older than the victim, the sexual activity will be classified as a misdemeanor" He would be charged with "Criminal Sexual Abuse" which is a "Class A" misdemeanor according to 720 ILCS 5/11-7.

However, I believe it still lands you a spot on the sex offender registry, which owns you for life.


Best course of action is still a pregnancy test. As stated before, if she's pregnant, she's automatically emancipated. She can see a doctor, receive medical treatment without her parents knowing. Also, if she's pregnant, she should have a paternity test performed to determine the father of the child so she can receive adequate support if she chooses to keep it.

Touche dear sir. :)
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Scott T
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Screw her sister.
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Jago
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My friends yes friends have had the same problem, but luckily they weren't actually pregnant. Anyway she really needs to discuss this things with her parents but not mention names, since she is a C.C it might be better to think of her welfare and her future education because she might be putting everything in jeopardy, the other thing she could do is put the baby up for adoption but it might be challenging

Either way she needs you there so just be there for when she wants to talk
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Jan 17 2007, 01:43 AM
It said in the first post that they used protection. :/

"We totally used a condom" doesn't = protection in some cases :(

Condoms can split, the latex can perish, a lot of teens have no idea how to even put a condom on properly.

Condom within date + appropriate size + decent brand + put on correctly & girl on birth control pill and taking them regulary so they work = proper protection.

Or just don't do it at all until you're married and can deal with the babyish consequences :angel:
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whats so wrong about abortion if shes not going to rais the child anyway?
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Or just don't do it at all until you're married and can deal with the babyish consequences :angel:

I agree.
If you cannot deal with the consequences, don't do it. Even if you are going to use 'protection', don't do it, because chances are - something will go wrong. Well, not necessarily, but think for worst, I would say. Then there is the case of rape, but that is totally different. If you can't handle the consequences, plain and simple, don't do it.

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whats so wrong about abortion if shes not going to rais the child anyway?

Many people are not in favor of abortion, including me. If you aren't willing to take care of the child, let someone else do it. The child has a future; don't ruin it. At the least put it up for adoption, and let it be adopted by a loving, caring family who will take care of the child. Even foster care and different things like that are way more beneficial. Don't kill it.
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Nicola
Jan 18 2007, 11:59 PM
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Jan 17 2007, 01:43 AM
It said in the first post that they used protection. :/

"We totally used a condom" doesn't = protection in some cases :(

Condoms can split, the latex can perish, a lot of teens have no idea how to even put a condom on properly.

Condom within date + appropriate size + decent brand + put on correctly & girl on birth control pill and taking them regulary so they work = proper protection.

Or just don't do it at all until you're married and can deal with the babyish consequences :angel:

For all you or anyone else (except for the two people of coarse) knows though, when they say they used protection, they actually did. Now, seeing as they said they used protection, it's not right to come and say use protection. For all anyone knows they did use a condom, and spermiside and birth control. :/
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I would have to agree. It is very wrong to kill the child.
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Or just don't do it at all until you're married and can deal with the babyish consequences


You're making me post a serious answer :(

What has marriage got to do with this in this day and age?
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Jan 19 2007, 12:11 AM
For all you or anyone else (except for the two people of coarse) knows though, when they say they used protection, they actually did. Now, seeing as they said they used protection, it's not right to come and say use protection. For all anyone knows they did use a condom, and spermiside and birth control.  :/

If they used adequate protection then she wouldn't be pregnant :| I find it SERIOUSLY hard to believe that a 15 yr old girl is clued up on protection, STD's etc.

Don't start getting agressive with me over posting my thoughts, calm down :ermm: Verastyle asked for everyone's thoughts and advice, I've given mine like everyone else. I personally think they were too wrapped up in the heat of the moment to use proper protection, and as I've just said, I doubt at 15 and someone who is currently sleeping with a lot of people (I deduce this from what Ive read in the topic) she is going to know what proper protection is, what the consequences are, and probably doesn't care either.
If she paid attention in sex ed she wouldn't be in this mess.

Since I don't know them Lightsilver like yourself, I am personally within my rights to make assumptions on whether I think they were correct or not. They say they used protection? I say if she's sitting there with a period that is 2 months late and is worried that she is pregnant... perhaps they didn't. Perhaps as I stated in my previous post... they didn't put the condom on correctly. Maybe it was hurried and in the dark, who knows. I don't, but that is my opinion, so please quit quoting my post and acting as though I'm personally insulting someone. Try respondong to someone else's post instead, perhaps those who are too caught up in how 'gross' it is that a 15 yr old might be pregnant.
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You're making me post a serious answer em_sad.gif

What has marriage got to do with this in this day and age?

Haha :P

Just a personal view, that is all. I personally wouldn't have any children unless I was married. Just my personal viewpoints/morals.
In my mind marriage = loving couple in a stable relationship, therefore creating a perfect environment for a child.

But yeah, that can go wrong. Husband/wife cheats, moves out, child grows up in rough area of town since husband/wife is too depressed to get a better job... husband/wife dates random idiot who abuses them and then leaves after robbing them...child gets an Asbo, spends a year in juvy...

Gosh things could go totally the opposite end of the spectrum :( *needs sleep*
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The fact is she had sex, okay? She might be pregnant so instead of people judging his friend I think he wants advice not every stuck-up person saying "GROSS!" basically in my eyes, pointless and Spam

She may aswell take a test, she can't be certain, it might be caused by stress, it might be caused by numerous of other reasons but it's better for her to take a test than just wondering
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Jan 19 2007, 12:23 AM
The fact is she had sex, okay? She might be pregnant so instead of people judging his friend I think he wants advice not every stuck-up person saying "GROSS!" basically in my eyes, pointless and Spam

Gosh I agree. Asking advice from this community has a 50/50 chance of having some good advice come out of it or not.
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Nicola

I doubt she and he used proper protection, for the simple fact of the her age. But you can use all the protection in the world, and their is still a decent chance she could get pregnant.
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Jan 19 2007, 12:23 AM
The fact is she had sex, okay? She might be pregnant so instead of people judging his friend I think he wants advice not every stuck-up person saying "GROSS!" basically in my eyes, pointless and Spam

She may aswell take a test, she can't be certain, it might be caused by stress, it might be caused by numerous of other reasons but it's better for her to take a test than just wondering

And there are many knowledgeable posts in this topic which would help the poster advise their friend. Granted, I am not a lawyer, but I do know the law (Hell, if you're going to do it, you've gotta be educated, at least IMO anyways)

I completely agree with Nicola, though. And it goes back to my point above. If you aren't adult enough to learn the consequences, you shouldn't be having sex. You also shouldn't be sleeping around either, but i'm not going to sit here and judge her morals (unlike some people in this topic). What happened, happened.

She's just gotta go get a pregnancy test and then decide what she wants to do. She doesn't have to tell her parents, however, her parents (if she's pregnant) don't have to support her any longer. They can legally kick her out. However, if she has a good set of parents that shouldn't cross their minds.
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