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| OcelotJay-ZNR | Jul 19 2007, 08:10 PM Post #31 |
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I am kitteh, hear me purr. =(^_^)=
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That post me almost roll my eyes with disbelief, and sadness. Why do you feel the need to blame it on something? When people start clinging to blame their problems simply worsen. We look for blame because we can't handle the problem and instead decide that it's easier to just piss and whine, seek sympathy, absolve responsibility and/or use it as an excuse when things go wrong. It's a natural human trait, one we all posses and one that conjures in someone at some point, so don't think I'm trying to be nasty or single you out but you know what? A lot of people around the world have to live with a variety of conditions that make their life hell but they have to get on with it. If you delve deep into blame you merely end up in a state of self-pity, one few people will care to bother with and one that is brought on by you and not your condition. Be wary of it. You could end up creating the life long hell you so dread and it won't be the fault of your autism. PEM raises a valid point, one you need to take into consideration: people have problems that are caused by many things, be it a medical condition or simply a symptom of one's life and events. Perhaps you wouldn't have suffered as much without your autism but equally you might have for different reasons. Sometimes life deals us a hand that's plain crud and some people sadly have to go through much pain before things improve. Why? I don't know, it's just how life works but attempting to unearth reasons is as much a waste of time as labelling things for blame's sake. Yes, you're different, you're different from the majority in a way that most people don't understand, a way that Neanderthals will use against you. While my heart goes out to you for all you've endured, again you must understand that others suffer similarly without autism. Hopefully someday you'll discover life's not so bad and you'll be in a position to look back on everything with the satisfaction of knowing that what didn't kill you only made you stronger. As much as it is a cliche, it's the truth. The only caveat is that you have to be willing to fight. Dwell on your misfortune and little will happen, but fight against the tides...well, I can't predict the future but it's more likely to reap rewards and sow a prosperous future. It beats feeling like crap though, right? All right, I'll shut up now. But I will just say that, as hard as life has been for you, you can make it better. Live your life ducky and see where it takes you but please, don't allow yourself to become a victim. *That* is what will truly bring you hell.
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| punk-emo-rocker | Jul 19 2007, 09:02 PM Post #32 |
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Buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo.
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I blame it on the fact that I'm horribly insecure because I was made fun of as a kid. But that happens, at least less often, so it's getting easier and easier little by little for me. |
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| claretducky | Jul 19 2007, 09:07 PM Post #33 |
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supporting the clarets all the way to the premiership
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spot on ocelot!! i went through bullying from nursery right through school. it got to my third year in highschool in england, and i turned around when one of the bullies tried punching me in my back, so i stood up for myself for once, fought back, and stood up for my beliefs. i ended up beating the livin crap outta him, getting excluded for 2 days, etc, but i was happy at the fact i stood up for myself and eased the next 2 years of school. however, one day in year 10, some of the kids in the lesson, when the tutor wasnt in, were being nosey sods in her drawer, and found information in a document regarding my condition. they decided then to try and bully the hell outta me, only for it to backlash on them ten times worse. and i fought back against the bullies more and more, and they relised not to **** me about. nowadays, i feel a lot more confident in standing up for myself, speaking my mind, etc. its relarionships i have trouble with when it comes to confdence, etc, but hey....thats life for ya. the thing that really annoys me though is that my litle cousin robert, whos just finished his first year of highschool, is also autistic, and had been bullied throughout his first year of highschool, just like i was, picked off like a target for shooting practice by a bunch of bullies. my dad is another problem for me too.....he doesnt deal with me in the correct kinda way......always yelling, raising his voice, doesnt listen to anyone else, etc. in my eyes, and possibly my mom and brother, it seems that when i was diagnosed, he has been refusing to accept and aknowledge im different. but im starting to look at life a lot better nowadays. although i hate being single, im getting lot of girls thinking im cute (dunno how they think im cute lookin, but it still suprises me lol, and my mind was at one point not aknowledging this info), im extremely healthy fitness-wise, am at college, and am looking at going into the royal air force, police or medics (all three being respectable careers). ive also gotten a lot better at football/soccar now.......so yea....im better than what i was a while ago |
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