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Shyness
Topic Started: Aug 23 2007, 12:28 PM (641 Views)
IWillGetThere-07
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Wow where do i start.

Why am i so shy?
How do i conquer my shyness?
Why do we have these Emotions?

This is a little story of mine.. it is true btw lol

Basically i went on holiday a few days ago and i seen a girl at the local english pub (this is in spain btw) (and yes she was english) and we kept doing that thing where you take quick glances at each other and when you meet eacothers eyes you swap real quickly and pretend to be doing something... Anyway i new she would of at least liekd a chat with me and throughtout the rest of the week i kept seeing her but didnt do anything becuase i was to shy to make a move... Then on my last day i thought thats it and i went to chat to her and instead walked straight past her... Now im at home and ill 99% never see her again... Why do we do this!

Its not like im afraid of my appereance or anything.. i dress well, im not overweight too skinny or anything like that i just .. have a mental block that tells me i cant do it :(

Please help me how i can overcome these problems for future though! thanks for any replies :)
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Colin.
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she was this androgynist
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Don't think about what you're doing and say hello. Once you realize you're already talking to her, you won't be able to get out of the situation and besides, you'll probably be enjoying the conversation. =]
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IWillGetThere-07
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Colin.
Aug 23 2007, 04:36 PM
Don't think about what you're doing and say hello. Once you realize you're already talking to her, you won't be able to get out of the situation and besides, you'll probably be enjoying the conversation. =]

lol id problly shout it at her tho then walk off :S i spose gtin drunk would work.. but then id act like a total d***
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Vince.Valentine
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LOL I'll talk to you.
Well basically, it's like you said. Nerves. Sometimes you can just talk to people, sometimes you can't. I can't say anything which will make you more confident right away but I can offer you words of support.

Just talk to the person. I know sometimes it's really hard but hey, you'll never know till you try right? Just a simply "hey" sometimes just opens a world of new convo's ... go for it. You won't regret
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IWillGetThere-07
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thanks vince valentine.. like i siad i was so close to doing it.. but for sme reason i just walked past her and went back to the apartment slept. woke up at 6 am and went straight to the airport with my family... now i feel so bad about it
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Vince.Valentine
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ah well .. there will be other times I guess.
Consider this a lesson, see a chick, GO for it
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Vince.Valentine
Aug 23 2007, 05:18 PM
ah well .. there will be other times I guess.
Consider this a lesson, see a chick, GO for it

thanks vince.. ill leave this as a lesson and wait like most other people for my mind to forget her.

The one thing that put me off i guess is the fact that she was always with a mate or sat down on a table with her mum.. kinda sucks
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Sounds like me all over...I never have the guts to speak to someone, but I think of an incentive that makes me do it. Then I feel relieved. =]
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Try and ignore it. What's the worst that could happen?
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Sounds like me, except when I've had a few to drink. lol.

So, yeah. Drinking would help a lot, it really helps me. But I guess you need to be able to do it without drink too, otherwise you'll end up an alcoholic. I feel pretty confident about going up to people now. Once you do it once, it's easy.
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Just believe in yourself, I believe in myself and I can quite happily talk to anyone. :)
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arctica
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I sometimes can't talk to girls. It could be the fact that I always go for the shy girls that never talk back though
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arctica
Aug 24 2007, 02:03 AM
I always go for the shy girls that never talk back though

Similar problem >_<
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Postulate
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Blech, I'm the same way. Pretend you're dreaming - works for me. Gets rid of the consequences in your mind for a bit.
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Aug 23 2007, 06:39 PM
Try and ignore it. What's the worst that could happen?

Yea, especially if you might not ever see her again. :D It's always worth a try.
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