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22 year old guy with 16 year old girl; Am I right to be angry?
Topic Started: Sep 18 2007, 10:55 AM (81,500 Views)
Leon.
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I voted 'yes' because I think three or four years apart is plenty - not 6.
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Levity
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No the fact that you have said " wants " to means that the hole situation is irrelavant. If it happens it could maybe be an issue but I think at 16 a girl should be mature enough in most cases. As its just a matter of want and not actual actions then you allow it. Otherwise its like saying im not allowed to have my own fantasy of rooting on a bouncy castle with my hispanic, 50 year old girl friend in 2 years time (Im 18).

Ps. that was just an example :)
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k_dukelow
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Not sure...because the girl may not have problems with this.

On the other hand, the thought enters my mind---Is she old enough to decide what is right or wrong for her on such a matter?
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.Greg
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In England the girl would of been at a legal age to have sexual intercourse. So no i find no reason to be angry.
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Safinn
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Woody.
Sep 18 2007, 11:11 AM
Ohh, a LTRFTP.

Personally, I dont' think it's really wrong. If the girl was happy to have sex with the man, I don't see why it should be stopped.
When your dealing with younger ages it seems wierd, to me it does anyway. But my parents are about 6 yeas difference but seems very normal to me but does not seem wierd because they are older.

Also legal...
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Happy_Camper
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I don't think you have much of a right to be angry. I can see why you'd be concerned or emotional about the issue. But really what they do doesn't concern you. If you're frightened by it...well, take precautions with your girl so that she grows up to be smart.

I'm a nineteen year old girl in a relationship with a fifteen year old. That's three and a half years difference. I get made fun of or questioned all the time for it. Truth was we got together three years ago. And we're still in a loving relationship. I've also dated a guy recently (when I was broken up with my other boyfriend for a time, we're back together now) who was twenty-five. It didn't work out. Not because he was older but rather because he was him. I wish there was a "depends" option. As long as it's between two consenting self-aware people, there's no problem.
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Estrella
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It's one thing to date someone six years older, but to get too close is a whole different story. I would be angry. :ermm:
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Omni65-ZNR
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sounds like bad parenting to me :/

people are forgetting more and more that you have the right to tell your children no
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.Phixion
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Of course! It's illegal!
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TrineX
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If she wanted it, I see no problem in it.
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Sep 18 2007, 04:14 PM
No you have no right to be angry. 22 and 16 are 6 years apart, it'd be different if say this guy was 32, or 42. Then you could be as pissed as you want. a 6 year difference is not a big deal, and by 16 most girls can decide for themselves who they want to have sex with. Though if it was your child though, I guess you have something of a right to be somewhat angry.
Sorry sonny, you're 14. Don't make statements about what you're not old enough to understand, it may sound silly to you now, but when you're in you're in your 20's you'll know what I mean. At 16, there are a very very very small percentage of people mature enough to make a rational decision about a relationship.
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TrineX
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Please, according to you. You don't decide anything around here. If I am going to use your logic. No human is able to effectively lead a nation of people. Humans are animals that are practically unstable creatures. We can hardly hold ourselves up, so how can we effectively (there goes that word again) lead a bunch of other humans? We act primarily based on impulse and our history shows we can't. I am speaking out of the collective.
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I think you do have the right. BUT if they had waited two more years then no one would have any excuses to be angry. The article is not there anymore, but what if she had gotten pregnant? At sixteen? That could have created lots of problems, and not for the parents. Think about the poor child.
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Sep 19 2007, 03:05 AM
At 16 they're not capable of making their own decisions. I'd be highly pissed at the guy and upset with the daughter. She's 16 she doesn't know what love is yet. Secondly a lot of guys prey on these girls because of their naivety. I can't speak for all countries, but in America that's something that's looked down upon. I know it's legal in some places but that doesn't make it right. Why is it that they can have sex at 16 with adults but cannot move out until they're 18? I'm sorry but if my daughter wants to do that she'd have to get the hell out of my house.XD
We're talking about sex.. not love.
And to add to it, I didn't know there was an age you have to hit to love. <_<

I think she's old enough to make the decision.
And live by the consequences.

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I think you do have the right. BUT if they had waited two more years then no one would have any excuses to be angry. The article is not there anymore, but what if she had gotten pregnant? At sixteen? That could have created lots of problems, and not for the parents. Think about the poor child.


Think about the poor child?
How do you know it would be a negative. My friend's mom was 16 when he was born.
He's just fine. (Same with Lebron James' mom)
And the father is old enough to have a steady occupation if not high education.
How do you know he's not a CEO?!
I'm not saying that he is; just suggesting that he could very well be successful... (maybe not after sleeping with a 16 year old though..lol)


Edited by .Kryptonite, Aug 13 2008, 03:34 PM.
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Silver Buizel
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Well, you shouldn't be doing this kind of stuff until you're married, but what's the difference between a 16 and an 18 year old other than age and the fact 18 year olds are considered adults?
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