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22 year old guy with 16 year old girl; Am I right to be angry?
Topic Started: Sep 18 2007, 10:55 AM (81,506 Views)
IbanXCorp
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I like to think that, considering my personal living area in the US in accordance to my location in the US, that people do have a certain amount of common sense that stops them from doing stupid things. However, this is merely a hopeful dream. The problem here is that neither of them have the thought processes required to act orderly.

You have the right to be mad; but a better question would be 'Should I?' - To be frank, yes. The girl and the older man should bother contemplate the situation before they climb in bed. This phase was overlooked.

Furthermore, to truncate any more rambling, I'd seriously consider a plan of teacher your daughter, at a later age, about sex practices, instead of simply safe sex.
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I know 16 year olds who are much more mentally stable and aware of consequences than a lot of 30 year olds. The situation would rely heavily on her maturity both mentally and emotionally. If she seemed to know what she wanted, for the right reasons, then it would be fine. If she was just into the fact that he was 22 and had a car and could buy booze, then it isn't really right for her to be sexually involved with him.
People need to look past age because it isn't always directly related to the maturity of a person.
And as for you being angry, well that is your right but at the same time, she isn't your daughter so you really have no right to judge what she does with her life...
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Sep 19 2007, 06:31 PM
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Sep 19 2007, 07:05 AM
At 16 they're not capable of making their own decisions. I'd be highly pissed at the guy and upset with the daughter. She's 16 she doesn't know what love is yet. Secondly a lot of guys prey on these girls because of their naivety. I can't speak for all countries, but in America that's something that's looked down upon. I know it's legal in some places but that doesn't make it right. Why is it that they can have sex at 16 with adults but cannot move out until they're 18? I'm sorry but if my daughter wants to do that she'd have to get the hell out of my house.XD

In Britain you can move out at the age of 16.

And 16 year olds are perfectly capable of making rational, and reasonable decisions. Just because they haven't experienced as much as perhaps a middle aged adult has does not make them any less capable of making their own decisions.

And you're saying that you'd want to get you're daughter out of your house for acting on urges that are only human - and that the vast majority of us feel?

:hmm:
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emeraude
Sep 24 2007, 05:36 PM
And the reality is that in a way, I'm playing devil's advocate. I'm eighteen, and I'm certainly not a virgin. However, I still believe that there are an extremely small amount of sixteen-year-old girls ready to have sex with an older man, regardless of culture.

The reality is much different from this. Many girls are raped, tortured or kidnapped every year because they like to tease older men, and they like the feeling of power over someone they percieve to be more mature.
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The reality is much different from this. Many girls are raped, tortured or kidnapped every year because they like to tease older men, and they like the feeling of power over someone they percieve to be more mature.


One hundred per cent of all rapes, tortures, and kidnappings are NOT the victim's fault. And be as that may--and I sincerely doubt that there are very many girls like this-- it doesn't mean they're readyfor sex. If they're truly doing it to tease an older man, or to feel powerful, then they aren't ready, no matter how provocatively they act.
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Sep 25 2007, 08:07 PM
If they're truly doing it to tease an older man, or to feel powerful, then they aren't ready, no matter how provocatively they act.

Lots of over-25 year old women like to do this. Are you saying that they're not ready for sex?
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It's nothing new. Over here girls in middle school mess around with guys around the age of 21.
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Don't think you should be angry unless its something you want to be angry about.
My best homegurl is 16 and is going out with a 20 year old and he is a asome person and I trust him. If he was a dude with a long beard and needs to shave and needs a fashion sense and is likke much older, Ill kick his ass lol.
But hell I see this happenin everywhere.
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Ryn
Sep 21 2007, 05:06 PM
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Sep 21 2007, 09:02 PM
I find it weird that this country has such a phobia about the biological purpose of life. Honestly...

So you'd be ok if a 22yr old guy slept with a 12 year old girl?What if she was your daughter? Seriously all I'm saying is that children should be children. You only get to live your childhood once...the rest of your years you're stuck being an adult with loads of responsibilities.

Ermm no one said this was a 12 year old girl. Even still, their choice not yours. I don't get whats wrong about sex. Please tell me :S
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Lots of over-25 year old women like to do this. Are you saying that they're not ready for sex?


If someone is that insecure and immature, then no, they're not ready for sex.
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If he actually did that here, he'd be a felon.
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Well think of it this way. Hundreds of years ago we have 40+ year old men sleeping with younger girls. (15)

So this is a step up. At least they aren't 40+ anymore.
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Aren't 16 years old can't have sex with older person (age 18 +) ..because it consider rape?

If I were you I would be more protective with my daughter until she reach 18, and then she can make up her mind.


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Bad parenting.
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53-yr Old Arrested for Soliciting Sex from a 5-yr Old.
Much worse... o_O
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