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22 year old guy with 16 year old girl; Am I right to be angry?
Topic Started: Sep 18 2007, 10:55 AM (81,501 Views)
toby girl lover 1
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Dewayne2
Sep 18 2007, 02:55 PM
Hi. Long time reader, first time poster.

I found this in a fitness forum.

A guy, 22, wants to have sex with a girl who's 16. I'm the dad of a 1 year old daughter. I am worried about her enough as it is, but I cant think of how much I'd worry about this if this was my daughter. I'm angry about this guy doing this, am I right to be angry? What would you do if your daughter was in this situation?

(to make things equal, you can read the 22 year old guys side on his blog, http://www.becomingapua.com/2007/09/06/hav...a-16-year-old/)

You have total right to be angry. Your expressing concern for your daughter. You are blessed to have her. And I hope no harm such as that comes to her.
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toby girl lover 1
Mar 30 2008, 04:47 PM
Dewayne2
Sep 18 2007, 02:55 PM
Hi. Long time reader, first time poster.

I found this in a fitness forum.

A guy, 22, wants to have sex with a girl who's 16. I'm the dad of a 1 year old daughter. I am worried about her enough as it is, but I cant think of how much I'd worry about this if this was my daughter. I'm angry about this guy doing this, am I right to be angry? What would you do if your daughter was in this situation?

(to make things equal, you can read the 22 year old guys side on his blog, http://www.becomingapua.com/2007/09/06/hav...a-16-year-old/)

You have total right to be angry. Your expressing concern for your daughter. You are blessed to have her. And I hope no harm such as that comes to her.

Sure, he has a right to be angry for a stupid reason.
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I'd quote gareth from the office but I'd get banned :D, i vote no.
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Depending on what you see of the situation is your decision, like it has been said, if the girl is happy and will agree with the man, they can do so. But if you think it's wrong, then it's wrong from your prospective.
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I dont see anything wrong with someone who is 22 having sex with a 16 year old personnally they both are at the legal ages and if they wanna have sex just stand by her and let her know your their for her when time comes :)
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Not everyone likes to date people their age. I know I didn't and continue to not. My boyfriend is 26 and I'm 20, making him six years older than myself. We're good for each other and if I were a few years younger I would still have been just as attracted to him. 22 isn't a huge difference between 16 - they're both still in that 'life is changing' phase.
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Sep 18 2007, 07:12 AM
I'm 20 and currently in a relationship of sorts with a 16 year old. I'm sure I'd still like her if I was two years older so I'm going to have to vote "no". :unsure:

You're 20 and you're having a relationship with a girl in high school....and there's nothing wrong with that to you? ...really?
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demonking777
Apr 6 2008, 09:31 AM
I'd quote gareth from the office but I'd get banned :D, i vote no.

When cherries are ripe, they're ready for plucking...XD

But in all seriousness, I'd consider that slightly wrong. A 16 year old girl hasn't quite decided who they're going to be in life, and is still immature so could be easily manipulated by an older guy. Then again, it is legal, so there's nothing you can do about it, depends if it's just sex or an actual relationship in my opinion.
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Ryn
Sep 18 2007, 11:05 PM
At 16 they're not capable of making their own decisions. I'd be highly pissed at the guy and upset with the daughter. She's 16 she doesn't know what love is yet. Secondly a lot of guys prey on these girls because of their naivety. I can't speak for all countries, but in America that's something that's looked down upon. I know it's legal in some places but that doesn't make it right. Why is it that they can have sex at 16 with adults but cannot move out until they're 18? I'm sorry but if my daughter wants to do that she'd have to get the hell out of my house.XD

Amen. She would be out within a matter of seconds.
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Sad that you would kick your daughter out of your house for doing something that is natural.

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Mortek
May 17 2008, 01:36 AM
Sad that you would kick your daughter out of your house for doing something that is natural.

Sad that you think a 16 year old and a 22 year old having sex is natural.
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Much doesn't need to be said other than;

"Live and learn."

If it's a bad move, like abusive, arguments, demanding, possible rape, then she will obviously learn.

If they have the best times of their lives, stick with each other forever, or even a few years/alot of years then she probably won't regret it.

16 can be debated mature, or not mature enough to make decisions like this, but personally I am 16 and I feel that if I was female, and in this situation I could handle it. 16 is old enough for a job, to move out, start your life, then why not have a relationship with someone a few years older? Compared to everything else it seems so minor.
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May 17 2008, 05:43 AM
Mortek,May 17 2008
01:36 AM
Sad that you would kick your daughter out of your house for doing something that is natural.

Sad that you think a 16 year old and a 22 year old having sex is natural.
If you had a son who was 16 that was having sex with a 22 year old girl, would you consider it as bad as you do the other way round?
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I dunno, I personally think the girl would have to mature enough before making decisions like that, even if she is cool with this 22 year old guy having sex with her.
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I'm catching some people saying that you can't know what love is when you're only 16. Do you think that's true?

I'd say that someone who is 16 could certainly know what love is, but they might not be mature enough to make those kind of life decisions for themselves yet, even if they think they are.

I had an aunt who got pregnant by a man who was 22 when she was 15. They got married, she had the baby when she was 16, and they were married for 19 years. (They're divorced now, but, so is everyone... go figure.)
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