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Marrying someone with a different religion
Topic Started: Mar 14 2008, 12:30 AM (4,635 Views)
Deathly~Malfunction
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its hard to decide...

but there is nothing stopping you from loving
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I know. But would I ever let someone that I love dis the Bible? Or say something that is against what I beleive in? I don't think so!! People have the right to beleive what they want. But in relationships they need to know that just because your a different religion, you don't get to throw away your loved ones.
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I'm not religious myself but I've met plenty of people with different philosophical beliefs and ideals, and while some grate on me, others I've found plenty of peace with. That we respect our differences means that I can see the hope for having a relationship, were we in that position. However, I can't deny that Trav-man speaks perfect sense. I have strong convictions over certain matters and am not willing to compromise on them, and while I can respect the opinions of those who feel differently, I couldn't be in a relationship with them. Right and wrong is fluid, we've all been debating long enough to know that, but when you're firmly set in your ways and believe you are right, how do you love someone you feel is wrong?

I'm flexible with various things, there are still some things to which I don't have a concrete answer and thus I don't hold any firm foundations, but some beliefs I hold I maintain to be correct and will never waiver until proven otherwise. Stubborn? Perhaps, but I don't believe love is strong enough to conquer the boundaries of the faith that is firmest within us all: that we are right. I think it all comes down to the individuals and where their religions/ideals/beliefs/whatever clash but since I'm not religious, I'm neither with nor against the idea of two people of different religions marrying. I don't think it's wrong but equally it's not really something I can "support" - I don't see there to be a moral or ethical problem that would fit all cases.
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I think this is the kind of thing that should be dealt with on a situation by situation basis.

It may work in some cases, however even in the cases where it works there is the matter of children. If you (not directed at anyone in particular) were raised in a family where one parent was a strong Catholic and the other was an Atheist, how would you deal with that? It would get pretty confusing and make it hard to believe anything, because whether they tried to or not the parents would each end up influencing the child with their own beliefs.

So while I don't think there's anything wrong with it morally, chances are it's not going to work out so well in the end.
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Its a pretty bad idea if you ask me. Most people that I've talked to with a spouse of a different religion are fighting with them all the time about religion. Go ahead and do it if you think you can handle it. But I'm completely against it because there's no point in adding stress to a relationship that doesn't need to be there.
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And what if the mother of a child is Cathlic and the father of the child is Atheist? then what if the mother wants to teach the child about being a Cathlic but the father suggests otherwise? That would be very bad.
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Mar 14 2008, 04:32 AM
Love is love, religion plays no role.

I agree to the "T"
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she was this androgynist
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~AngelPrincess~
Mar 15 2008, 01:46 AM
And what if the mother of a child is Cathlic and the father of the child is Atheist? then what if the mother wants to teach the child about being a Cathlic but the father suggests otherwise? That would be very bad.

They could agree upon the holidays to celebrate and teach their child both of their opinions. Then when the child is old enough, they decide for themself, further preaching openness and acceptance.

In my opinion this is all a conflict of openness and respect. If you love someone, you should be able to respect their wishes, and if you both love each other very much, you should get married (unless of course you don't believe in marriage).
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I think religion does play a role in love, but ultimately it depends on the people involved in the potential relationship.

If it were me for instance, I could not handle marrying someone who believed in God with every fiber of their being. I would be annoyed by it, frankly. I would feel that they don't question things enough and that type of "acceptance" of almost anything is irritating to me.

The reason we even find love is because we can feel compatible with one another. In love we try to find someone who can understand us completely. If there was a major difference of religion I believe it would cause strife between the couple, because there wouldn't be that "understanding" in that particular area.

Religion is sort of like politics. It's difficult to marry someone or become interested in someone who doesn't share your particular views that you may or may not feel strongly about. I don't think a left-wing liberal and a right-wing conservative could ever create a completely happy and fulfilling marriage with one another.

Religion definitely plays a role in who we become interested in and how a relationship can fare, however, as I said before it really depends on the people involved and their personalities.
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It all depends on the person you marry
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KayStryker
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Christians: don't marry a person from another religion, they may turn you away from the light of Jesus.
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Religions aren't like sports teams - they're intended to promote values. Most people fall in love because of someone else's personality and values; if they're agreeable enough to get married, then whatever purpose religion could have served is being served already. You'll always know a good tree by its good fruit, and if you're not marrying someone with good fruit (Mmm...) then there's something wrong.

I can see how a common religion would encourage mutual love, but if the love is there, then the religious structure isn't necessary. So I do think that two people of different religions can have a happy marriage.

Most people have such lukewarm religions that it doesn't matter. My Catholic cousin married a Jewish guy - as far as I know, it's not even going to matter.
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Nope, Jesus is always needed! :)

He is the reason I get up every morning.
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My mom is Christian, my dad is Jewish.

They were married for 5 years, but they did not get divorced because of their religions, they got divorced because my dad was too much into watching TV rather than my mom, but whatever...

I, myself, do not associate with any religions. I think that seeing the world from more than one religion has really opened up my eyes to the world rather than staying closed-minded in one religion.
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Mar 16 2008, 12:41 AM
Nope, Jesus is always needed! :)

He is the reason I get up every morning.

Religious structure. You can believe in all that jazz without being religious.
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